all things aside, Mr Painless is fair to sidestep this like a quarterback, but I reckon no matter the quantity of time, its the quality of the time you spend together that counts.
Pressure of kids, money, family, time availability etc etc all puts pressure on the pair of you.
If any one of them is disproportionate thats when the shite starts.
Today I went to look at a new car(makes tanks look like a bloody bargain) I asked if "do whatever the F you like" actually would in fact mean that
Sure, yes it does. Put in time when you have it where its needed, than give each other space.
A rut is dug pretty quick if you are under each others feet to long, or life becomes mundane not just routine(there is a difference)
When I collected(translated-hoarded) guns, my thought process was always deal first - "I will get it, she will get pissed off- she will get over it- I will still have the gun"
Never failed
But I put the time in ...............
Have you ever been told "even when youre here, youre not really here " ??
For me, I have always said that this job I love so much will never be called to ultimatum between her and it.
Reasoning is the ultimatum concept.
If I am put into a position to be forced to choose- she will loose, only because I was forced to make a decision based on emotion- not sense, which will affect us both and the kids. Its the end game forcing that would call my hand .
I can get another wife, but I may not get lucky enough to find a career that is both rewarding and enjoyable.
No easy answer mate, Im sure she has her reasons..............tell her you are getting a modern superbike instead of doing tanks & see if that brings her around ,

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